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Supporting Your Child's Social-Emotional Growth

Supporting Your Child’s Social-Emotional Growth

by Amy Vigliotti, Ph.D

Think of that special doorway in your home where you have marked the inches of your child’s growth. You and your child delight every time the pencil marks confirm how big and strong your child is getting! But how might you get your child as excited about their social-emotional growth? And how on earth would you measure that? Here are some simple strategies that you can adopt into your daily routine: Use emotion words in your daily language. Beginning in infancy, your child is learning from your behavior. Babies first become aware of their emotion states through a natural social …

Wearing Religion: My Observations of Working with Patients While Sporting a Hijab By Afshan Mohamedali, PhD

Wearing Religion

by Afshan Mohamedali, Ph.D

My Observations of Working with Patients While Sporting a Hijab   Most therapists adhere to the “do not disclose rule” of therapy given that the therapeutic space exists for patients’ benefit. It’s possible patients know very little about their therapists from what they have directly shared and maybe more from what they’ve observed. Do they wear a wedding ring? Do they have photos in their office? Do they have a public or private education? Do they believe in God? I’ve been wearing my religion on my head long before I became a therapist and so when I was first exposed …

Say Goodbye to Your Inner Critic

Say Goodbye to Your Inner Critic

by Amy Vigliotti, Ph.D

Staying ambitious without perfectionism or doubt. Originally published on Psychology Today You know who your inner critic is. It’s the little voice inside your head that insults you and criticizes you. It seems to chime in like a rude neighbor in the movie theater, loudly chattering away at the most important parts of the film! It’s the voice that says, “Ugh, why did you say that?” and replays the mistake in the conversation for hours, even days. It is also the voice that compares and despairs, reminding you that your goals feel far from reach. The inner critic is a …

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Emotion as Instinct

by Afshan Mohamedali, Ph.D

Touch a hot stove and your hand starts to hurt because of the pain. That’s your brain’s way of telling you something. Perhaps don’t touch a hot stove? Without our body and brain working in tandem to interpret pain signals, we wouldn’t be aware that our body needs care or that there is something to do differently next time. Emotions work in telling us something in the same way that physical pain does. When we have a strong relationship with ourselves and our feeling states, we can use emotions as instincts. Emotions are usually an internal reaction to something, whether …

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The Key to Healthier Relationships

by Allison Abrams, LCSW-R

How partners can help one another change unhealthy patterns of attachment Originally published on Psychology Today According to attachment theory, we each develop a style of attachment—the way we relate to others—based on the relationship we had with our primary caregiver. This then becomes the template onto which we project most of our adult relationships. When our basic needs are met consistently by an attentive and loving caregiver, we develop a secure attachment to that caregiver and thus a secure attachment style. Psychologists refer to this type of caregiver as the good enough parent. Children who develop this style of …

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How to Keep Jealousy From Sabotaging Your Relationship

by Allison Abrams, LCSW-R

Is there a cure for jealousy, and can it actually bring couples closer together? Originally published on Psychology Today We are all born with basic instincts and tendencies that drive our behavior. Some of these instincts are essential to our well-being, such as the drive for love and belonging. Others are not so desirable, such as rage or addiction. However, all of our drives — the good, the bad, and the ugly — are an innate part of the human experience, and each serves a purpose. One of the most potentially destructive of instincts is jealousy. It is also one …

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Understanding Depression Beyond Biology

by Allison Abrams, LCSW-R

A multitude of factors contribute to the development of clinical depression. Originally published on Psychology Today When it comes to the etiology of clinical depression, the question most often asked is: Is it biological or environmental? The answer to this question, according to Dr. Myrna Weissman, professor of epidemiology in psychiatry at the Columbia University Irving Medical Center is: “yes.” Depression isn’t simply environmental or biological. It is both. “There are a number of factors involved.” Says Weissman. “Temperament, personality traits, self-esteem, negative outlook, early losses, genes, family history, changes in brain structure, medical problems, certain medications, hormones, all contribute.” …

Maintaining Confidence Throughout the Dating Process

by Allison Abrams, LCSW-R

10 steps to a healthy relationship Originally published on Psychology Today In my last post, “The Psychology of Modern Dating,” I describe some of the challenges that come with dating in a digital age and their effects on fundamental interpersonal processes. Despite the potential pitfalls, it is possible to take the pain out of dating. Below are some steps you can take to preserve your sense of worth and emotional well-being as you embark on the journey to love. 1. Know your worth. Self-worth refers to the value you attribute to yourself as a person, across situations and independent of …

The Psychology of Modern Dating

by Allison Abrams, LCSW-R

How online dating is changing our fundamental interpersonal processes. Originally published on Psychology Today Navigating the modern dating world can be a venture rife with disappointment and disillusionment. On the other hand, dating can lead to a lifelong partnership. Sadly, for many it is more often the former. From dating fatigue to the sting of rejection, even the most confident daters are not immune to the negative effects of dating on psychological and emotional well-being. And for those who struggle with self-worth, these effects can be especially harmful. Online shopping for mates According to social researchers, “Online dating has produced …

Forgiveness, Healing, and the Power of Compassion

by Allison Abrams, LCSW-R

By letting go of grudges, you’re not simply letting the other person off the hook—you’re taking a step toward a healthier mind and body Originally published on Goodtherapy Forgiveness: one of those necessary evils in life. The stubborn, self-righteous child inside of you will do anything to avoid it; but, as the saying goes, to not do so is to slowly poison yourself while secretly hoping the other person dies. By holding on to grudges and hurts, the only one you are poisoning is yourself. The poison being hatred and anger, two dangerous emotions that haven’t been known to do …

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